What goes on at a Lucid Encounters Event?

A Lucid Encounters Event is like any good party where you can mix and mingle with other like-minded people. Doors open at 8pm. You can sit and talk or play some naughty games. You can expect to find a group of friendly, and social people. There will be a mix of first timers as well as more experienced attendees. You can partake in as little or as much as you like-it is totally up to YOU. We sincerely hope you will participate by at least watching and by bringing your kinky, positive vibe to the mix.

     How many people will be at the Event?

I’ve received many inquiries regarding this question & there is no way to judge how many people will be at any event. Attendance can depend on various things like work schedules, vacations, community events etc. Lists of attendees are never published. The only way you will know how many people attended, who attended or how the event went is by coming yourself.

     What should I wear?

Please plan on arriving to and leaving from the facility wearing street-appropriate attire. Do not leave or enter the event in obvious bondage clothing, hooded or visibly leashed. Once you arrive, there will be space to change into your outfit, gear or fetish wear if needed. At the event, you should wear whatever makes you feel sexy, beautiful and kinky! i.e. latex, pvc, leather, fantasy, military uniforms, burlesque, medical, drag etc.

*Please note that  grungy/dirty attire is not allowed & you will be denied entry to the event if you are not appropriately dressed or clean*

     What is the break down of age, gender, and orientation?

All attendees must be at least 21 years old; IDs will be checked at the door, no exceptions will be made to this rule. Aside from the minimum age requirement, it is impossible to predict the demographics of any given event. Lucid Encounters welcomes all genders & sexual orientations. i.e. straight, bi, gay, males, females, TG, TV, Cross dressers etc.

Lucid Encounters is open regardless of gender, orientation, play style, race or religion. Many types of people attend our events, from many different communities and it is important to leave our intolerances at the door. If seeing a particular type of scene makes you uncomfortable, or if there is someone at an event whom you have personal issues with (such as exes or about to be exes), then it is up to you to remove yourself from the situation. Homophobic, heterophobic, biphobic, gender-phobic, leather-phobic, sex-phobic, or other biased remarks and attitudes along with relationship drama will not be tolerated.

     Are singles welcome? Should I bring a partner?

Singles, couples, and more complex groups are all welcome; As with any event, it is nice to know folks, but if you come alone, are friendly and social, you will soon make friends.

     What type of play is allowed?

Pretty much anything between consenting adults goes at a Lucid Encounters Event, with the exception of activities involving urine, fecal matter, wax play & cutting/scalpels. This includes but is not limited to kissing, fondling, wrestling, spanking, whipping, paddling, scratching, tickling, etc. Fire Play is allowed with prior permission only.

     Do I have to play?

Absolutely not! You do not have to play unless you freely want to and consent to play! Lucid Encounters events are not a "free for all" there is no expectation for anyone to participate in anything. By attending, you are contributing your own unique energies to the creation of a sex positive space in which you are free to express and explore your sexuality to whatever degree is comfortable and fun for you. Consent is one of the fundamental, ethical values of Lucid Encounters. Put simply, you never have to do anything you do not want to do. If, at any time, you feel that you are being coerced or forced to do something that you do not want to do, you should immediately approach a Staff Member and make them aware of the situation. If you feel that particular rules or guidelines are not being followed, if a person appears inadequately experienced for the type of play they are doing, or if you observe someone behaving inappropriately, advise a Staff member of your concerns. Do not intervene on your own.

There are 'no-play' areas available for your relaxation or processing needs. Feel free at any time to take a break from the action, chill, and realign yourself to the vibe.

     Is it ok for me to watch other people?

Yes, DEFINITELY! Respectful voyeurism is totally acceptable. By respectful, we mean that you maintain an appropriate distance away from those you are watching. By appropriate, we mean a distance that allows playing participants to not feel encroached upon, and not talking to engaged parties or other observers in such a way that will be disruptive to the scene you are observing. That would, after all, defeat the purpose. In addition, play spaces will be clearly marked. When a scene is happening in a marked play space, you may not enter the space unless participants have clearly invited you to do so.

It is perfectly acceptable to come to the event and just watch what's going on. In fact, at your first event, we recommend that you plan to watch, socialize, and become comfortable with the environment. Just remember that you do not have to play until you are completely comfortable with the atmosphere and the people around you. If you see something that makes you uncomfortable, turn away or go to another area. Feel free to go to a Staff Member and bring the situation to their attention, but you are not allowed to directly interfere with a scene at any time.

     What is the proper Etiquette, how should I act?

This is a common question. “How should I act in a BDSM/fetish club?”. Lucid Encounters offers people the chance to explore their own sexuality. However there are rules and codes of conduct for behavior. The main rules are that touching anyone else without permission and any form of harassment is strictly forbidden. Lucid Encounters provides a venue for many different ideas and practices; prejudices should not be brought into the club. Making assumptions about other people is not recommended.

Etiquette is especially important in the play areas. Be considerate at all times and be careful where you stand or walk. If people are using the equipment, the last thing they want is someone being hurt accidentally. If unsure, keep to behavior that would be acceptable in a local restaurant.

Loud Talking in play areas is not allowed. 

There is plenty of space to visit with others instead of the play areas.

With a D/s couple, it is good etiquette to ask the Dominate if you can join in/touch/whatever rather speaking to the slave/sub directly. People who are wearing collars should be assumed to be "off limits". It is proper etiquette to ask a collared individual if it is okay to speak to them prior to any conversation with said individual. If a Top or Dominant is present, it is proper etiquette to ask their permission to speak to the person who wears their collar.

     If I do play, will people watch me?

More than likely!!! Exhibitionism and voyeurism are a huge aspect of the fun and titillation at Lucid Encounters Events and are totally permissible and encouraged as long it does not interfere with other players. If you decide to play, it is up to you where you do it, whether it is in the middle of the room or in a cozy little nook in the corner. Note that it is highly probable that someone will see you and/or watch you. If you want total privacy, come to Lucid Encounters to get worked up and then work it out with your partner(s)/lover(s) at home!

     What do I do if no one wants to play with me?

This question comes up often, so you're not alone if you share this concern. Please keep in mind that your attendance at an event does not mean that you will meet someone for sex or that someone will play with you. Lucid Encounters is not a dating service. Please do not ask me to help set you up with a partner. Lucid Encounters provides a safe space for people to experiment, explore making requests and extending invitations, as well as a safe space to experience and explore rejection. If you do not find someone to play with do not take it personally...after all, you are not attracted to everyone either!

Although interaction between players and watchers is not banned, don't assume that because someone is playing they will want you to join in. Events are not singles nights; they are usually attended by couples or groups. If you spend some time watching, you will see that some couples are happier left alone, while other players are keen for others to join in. Always ask politely and accept a 'no' when you hear it, as others will give you the same privilege. Don't assume that just because someone is dressed in extremely sexual clothing that they will automatically wish you to make advances on them: some will; some won't — just don't make assumptions.

     Can people come and go during the Event?

No. We do not want people coming and going throughout the night. The reason for this is that the creation of this delicious space is altered by this activity. If you must go to your car for something, and want to come back inside, you must have a security escort. Please note that you can leave at any time and need not feel obligated to stay until closing time.

     What about privacy and confidentiality?

Confidentiality is a concern to almost everyone who attends an adult-oriented event or gathering. What you choose to reveal about yourself is largely a matter of personal judgment. Most people err on the side of caution until they get to know other individuals as well as the collective group. Lucid Encounters is not a "secret society"; however, while many people who attend an event choose to be completely open about their interests, many do not. It is important not to make any assumptions about a person's openness with the general public, to be discrete, and to be respectful of each individual's personal choices. Be especially cautious about approaching someone you have met at a Lucid Encounters event at another outside setting (such as a shopping mall). Please also remember that who attends and what happens at the event is private and should not be discussed with those who did not attend. These events are meant to serve the community; that means that as a community, we will make choices that create a safe space in which we might, again and again, share amazing times and spaces together.

     Are there Refunds for any reason?

No, there are no refunds. 

*Exception - Refunds are given only if an event has been cancelled.

If you have any questions or concerns that are not covered in the FAQs above, please feel welcome to Contact me.